Telltale signs your relationship is over

Relationships are complicated, amazing, pure bliss, and crappy all at the same time. However, there are certain signs your relationship is over. Through the ups and downs of the relationship, it may be hard to tell if it’s meant to be or not. Every relationship is different and there will always be ups and downs and hurdles along the way. But where do we draw the line? 

Relationships start with magic and spark but eventually, the spark and chemistry dies down. So how do you know if your relationship just needs to be reignited or if it’s time to call it quits? 

It’s very hard to end any relationship and you might choose to stay to avoid hurting your partner or because you have invested in that relationship but are you being true to yourself? 

Here are some signs that your relationship is over and it may be time to bite the bullet: 

You’re not happy 

This is usually one of the first signs that your relationship is over. Being with this guy at some point made you feel alive, made you feel as if you can accomplish anything and you felt like you were on top of the world. Now you always have to have the talk to try and fix something. If you’re not emotionally satisfied when your partner is around it may be time to break up. 

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Trust 

For some reason, you just don’t feel like you trust your partner anymore. You can’t quite place a finger on it but you can’t trust your partner because of a feeling in your gut. If you try bringing up the trust issue and your partner just shoves it aside or invalidates your feelings, unfortunately, your partner no longer fits the bill. It might be time to evaluate your relationship. Trust is one of the main pillars of a relationship, if you feel the need to play detective then it’s time to move on. 

Intimacy

Intimacy is important in any romantic relationship. If your partner is only interested in you sexually but not interested in you as a person it may be time to move on because your partner may just be using you for sex. If you also don’t have sex at all it’s also a red flag and it’s become a chore in your relationship and there are no medical reasons behind it then your relationship needs more work. This is one of the common signs your relationship is over.

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No communication 

At one point you used to text all the time, talk on the phone for hours but now you have awkward conversations or you no longer talk. Communication is one of the most important aspects in any relationship. If you can no longer communicate your relationship might be in a lot of trouble. If you have tried talking about it but it ends up nowhere then you might have to start thinking about winding up. 

Spending time together 

We’re not saying spend every hour of every day with your partner, however, if you rarely spend time together or being together is more of a chore then end the relationship. If you feel like you’re lonely when you’re with your partner your relationship may not have future prospects. 

Arguments 

If you constantly argue when you’re together is a sign of a stressful situation and sometimes incompatibility especially if you keep arguing about the same things every day. It could be a sign that it’s time to let go. 

Apologizing without any change 

Does your partner keep apologizing for the same thing over and over again? Do they keep saying they’ll change then make the same mistake again and again? This may be a sign that your partner is no longer making an effort to keep the relationship going. 

No discussion about the future 

If you no longer talk about your future plans and where you want to be in 1 year or 5 years. It may be time to question the future of your relationship. When there’s no future for your relationship it’s best to go your separate ways to stop wasting each other’s time. 

Disrespect 

This is another red flag. If your partner disrespects you criticizes you in public, run. It’s no longer a healthy relationship if your partner disrespects you. You deserve much better, it’s time to let go. 

Keeping score 

If you keep reminding each other of how they wronged you. the last time of the number of times they have done something then you’re keeping score. And if you’re doing so it’s time to reevaluate your relationship. 

Friends 

If your friends have started noticing changes in your relationship or your behavior. They might see things clearer than you are. Your closest friends know you really well. so if your habits start to change or they notice a change in your partner, you might want to start assessing your relationship. 

Cons outweigh the pros 

If you assess your relationships’ pros and cons and the cons outweigh the pros, your relationship is in trouble.  If it has more disadvantages than advantages you might want to start talking to your partner about it. And if you still can’t fix it, then your relationship has run its course.

Wandering 

If you start fantasizing about other people or you start eyeing other people. That’s a very clear signal that it is time to end it. If you sometimes think someone is cute at the office, It means that you’re no longer interested in your partner. It may just be an indication that you want to be with other people. 

Too tired to fight 

When you don’t even have the energy to fight for the relationship or to argue about the relationship it may be a sign that your relationship is no longer working. If you both start letting go of things because it’s easier than arguing then it may be time to let go. 

Checked out 

If your partner is not the first person you want to call with good news or bad news if you barely respond to messages or you receive their phonecalls and you treat them like a chore just do your partner a favor and end the relationship.